Birds do it, bees do it, and humans do it all the time. But women only do so if the candle scent is just right — and their partner washes the dishes first. Stereotype, sure, but is it true? Are men’s libidos really stronger than women’s?
Well, yes, they have.Study after study shows that men gender The drive is not only stronger than in women, but more direct. By contrast, the source of female libido is more difficult to pinpoint.
Women are known to value emotional connection more as a spark of libido. But women also appear to be heavily influenced by social and cultural factors.
“Women’s sexuality is extremely sensitive to environment and context,” said Dr. Edward O. Laumann. He is a professor of sociology at the University of Chicago and the lead author of a major survey of sexuality, The Social Organization of Sex: Sexuality in America.
Here are seven patterns of male and female libido that the researchers found. Keep in mind that people may differ from these norms.
1. Men think more about sex.
Lawman reports that most adult men under the age of 60 think about sex at least once a day. Only about a quarter of women said they felt that way regularly. As men and women age, everyone’s fantasies diminish, but men’s fantasies are still twice as high.
In a research survey comparing male and female libido, Roy Baumeister psychologist Research from Florida State University found that men have more spontaneous sexual arousal and have more frequent and varied fantasies.
2. Men are more into sex.
Baumeister concluded after reviewing several surveys of men and women: “Men want sex more than women at the beginning, the middle, and many years after a relationship.” It’s not just for heterosexuals, he says. Gay men also had sex more frequently than lesbians at all stages of a relationship. Men also said they wanted more sexual partners in their lifetimes and were more interested in casual sex.
Men are more likely to seek out sex, even if it’s not approved or even banned:
- About two-thirds said they masturbate, though about half also said they felt guilty about it, Lauman said.By comparison, about 40 percent of women said they masturbate, and masturbation smaller in women.
- Prostitution is still largely a phenomenon of men seeking sex with women, not the other way around.
- Nuns are better at fulfilling their chastity vows than priests. Baumeister cites a survey of hundreds of clergy in which 62 percent of priests admitted to having sex, compared with 49 percent of nuns. Men report more partners on average than women.
3. Women’s sexuality is more complex than men’s.
What excites women? Even women don’t always seem to know. Northwestern University researcher Meredith Chivers and colleagues present pornographic films to gay and straight men and women. They were asked about their levels of sexual arousal and their actual levels of sexual arousal were measured with a device attached to their genitals.
For men, the results were predictable: Heterosexual men said they preferred male-female and female-female descriptions, and the measurement device backed up their claims. Gay men say they’re turned on by male-to-male sex, and the devices are backing them up again. For women, the results were even more surprising. For example, heterosexual women say they prefer sex between men and women. But on the genitals, they showed roughly the same responses to male-female, male-male, and female-female sex.
“Men are very strict and specific about who they are aroused by, who they want to have sex with, who they are in love with,” J. Michael Bailey said. He is a sex researcher at Northwestern University and co-authored the study with Chivers.
In contrast, women may be more open to same-sex relation That’s thanks to their less-directed libido, Bailey said. “Women may be more capable than men of being interested in their own sexuality and falling in love with themselves,” Bailey said. “They won’t necessarily do it, but they are capable.”
Bailey’s view is backed up by research showing that homosexuality is more precarious among women than men. In another extensive review of studies, Baumeister found that more lesbians reported recent sex with men than gay men reported having sex with women.Women are also more likely than men to call themselves bisexual and report their sexual orientation as an option.
4. Women’s sexual desire is greatly influenced by social and cultural factors.
In his review, Baumeister found research showing that women’s sexual attitudes, practices and desires are more likely to be influenced by their environment than men’s:
- Compared with men, women’s attitudes towards various types of sexuality (and their willingness to have sex) are more likely to change over time.
- Women who go to church regularly are less likely to have a tolerant attitude toward sex. Men did not show this link between church attendance and sexual attitudes.
- Women are more likely to be influenced by peer group attitudes when determining sexual behavior.
- Women with higher education are more likely to engage in broader sexuality (such as oral sex); education has less of an impact on men.
- Compared with men, women are more likely to show inconsistencies between the values they express about sexual activity, such as premarital sex, and their actual behavior.
Why do women seem to have weaker libidos and are more susceptible? Some believe it has something to do with men’s greater power in society, or men’s different sexual expectations compared to women. Lauman prefers explanations that are more connected to the world of sociobiology.
Men have every incentive to pass on their genetic material through sex, Lauman said.By contrast, women may be inherently cautious in choosing partners because they can Pregnant And end babysitting. They may be more focused on relationship quality because they want a partner who can stay by their side to help care for their children. They are also more likely to choose men with resources because they have a greater ability to raise children.
5. Women’s access to sexual gratification is less direct.
Men and women take slightly different paths to achieve sexual desire. “I hear women say in my office that desire comes more from the ears than between the legs,” says Esther Perel, Psychotherapist in New York City. “For women, there needs to be a plot – so romantic novel. It’s more about anticipation, how you get there; craving is the fuel of desire,” Perel said.
Perel added that women’s desires are “more situational, more subjective, and more layered,” Perel added. Men, by contrast, don’t need as much imagination, because sex is simpler and more immediate for them, Perel said.
That doesn’t mean that men don’t seek intimacy, love, and connection in their relationships the same way women do. They just see the role of sex in a different way. “Women want to talk first, connect first, and then have sex,” Perel explained. “For men, sex Yes connect. Sex is the language that men use to express their tender loving vulnerable side,” Perel said. “It’s their language of intimacy.
6. Women experience orgasm differently than men.
According to Lauman, it takes a man an average of 4 minutes from ejaculation to ejaculation. Women usually take about 10 to 11 minutes to orgasm — if they do.
Here’s another difference between the sexes: how often they orgasm during sex. Among couples, 75% of men said they always had an orgasm, compared to 26% of women. Not only are there differences in reality, but there are also differences in perception. While men’s female partners accurately reported their orgasm rates, women’s male partners said they thought their female partners had orgasms 45 percent of the time.
7. Women’s libido seems to be less sensitive to drugs.
Sexual desire in men appears to be more directly biologically related than in women, so it’s no surprise that low desire may be easier to treat by. drug in males. Men receive medication not only for erectile dysfunction, but also for decreased libido.However, for women, looking for a drug to promote sexual desire It turns out to be even more elusive.
testosterone and sexual desire in men and women.but testosterone Men with low libido have a much faster effect than women, says Glenn Braunstein, MD. He is the Past Chair of the Department of Medicine at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles and a Principal Investigator of Testosterone Therapy in Women. While these treatments are effective, they are not as effective in women as in men. “There’s a hormonal factor [sex drive]but it’s much more important to men than women,” Braunstein said.
A female testosterone patch called Intrinsa has been approved in Europe but was rejected by the FDA over concerns over long-term safety. But the drug has sparked a backlash from some medical and psychiatric professionals, who have questioned whether low female libido should be considered the best medical condition to treat. They point to the results of a large survey in which about 40 percent of women reported some kind of sexual problem — the most common being low libido — but only 12 percent said they were distressed. Given all the factors that stimulate a woman’s libido, some doctors say the drug should be the last ingredient considered, not the first.